Life Mentor and Feng Shui expert, Aur, gives her advice on how to pick the right guy, sharing how she picked her husband and what she has to say about our criteria to pick the right guy for ourselves.
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How I Picked the Right Guy
My husband and I got married within a month of knowing each other. That was almost 25 years ago, and we’re still together. But I didn’t pick him because of his looks (he’s pretty plain). I certainly didn’t marry him because of his charm. He took me to McDonald’s on our first date, and then only ordered food for himself. Certainly not prince charming.
I picked my husband, for three reasons. Firstly, he’s smart. He’s a computer expert with specialist skills less than 8 other people in the country have. Secondly, he’s able to make good money and provide for my family and me. Lastly, he has the mindset of wanting to continuously develop himself.
Be Honest With Yourself
Some people think that it is wrong to admit wanting to marry someone because of their skills or ability to make money. Even though, it’s what many people really want. It’s ridiculous
I made it a lifelong commitment to be myself and be honest with myself. If I feel a certain way or think a certain way, I accept it, good or bad. Nobody should deny who they are. Man-made social rules or norms are made up. They don’t have to dictate how you act. Believe me, by letting go of trying to maintain a social “image” to instead be yourself, gives you immense freedom. You’re able to do whatever you know is right or good, without needing outside approval. Or fearing their judgment.
If you want to pick the right guy for you, you must be honest with yourself. What you want in your life? What’s really important and valuable to you? What do you have to offer in return?
What’s His Unique Value?
Most couples start off the same way. They meet each other, feel naturally attracted, and then start a relationship. But it’s Maya, only a dream. Initial attraction fades, people aren’t who they originally seem to be and some people, although gorgeous, are dickheads.
When you start a relationship, you need to know the value of that person in your life. Ask yourself, what does this person have that, even when they’re old, fat, and losing hair, will still be valuable to have in my life. If you start a relationship from this point of view, you’re able to develop a deep, lifelong bond based on trust and real love.
Everyone has value and something that makes them unique. You do too. Acknowledge it. It’s beautiful when both sides of a couple know their own value and the unique value their partner has to offer. When they do, both sides show appreciation and make their partner feel valued.
It’s actually even in everyone’s best interest to create a relationship like this. Think about it. When someone makes you feel valued and irreplaceable in their lives, would you ever want to hurt them or lose them? No. Relationships built on honest reciprocal value and appreciation are priceless and last.
Why did you pick your partner? Did you pick the right guy? Leave it in the comments.
Hi Aur
I’m from Australia.
What do you recommend for me to attract a good man into my life.
The SW corner of my unit is laundry and bathroom, SW is also missing in lounge room area.
Please help
Regards Jan
Please notify me by email for my SW question above
Thanks Jan
Hi Jan,
Vick here (also from Australia). About the SW areas and such, Aur’s style of Feng Shui is very different than what you perhaps know, which seems like the Chinese style, right? You might like the Feng Shui Guide we made actually. About finding a man. Aur often says a few things. First of all, find out what it is you truly want and ask yourself, would that person want who me as I am today? Many times when we develop ourselves to become better people and live interesting and good lives, we become more attractive to those attracted to developed, interesting and good people.
The other thing Aur talks about is timing and karma. When it is the right time or it is your karma to meet someone, an opportunity will come. What you make of that opportunity though is your free will or decision at that time.
Hope this helps.
Vick
PS We won’t usually answer questions such as this privately, it is valuable for everyone who may be in your same situation. All the best from Bangkok 🙂
Thanks so much Vick for your quick reply, that helps me a lot
Jan